BDSM Negotiations and Etiquette

BDSM Writers Con, BDSM Negotiations, Charley Ferrer, bondageNegotiation is an important part of BDSM interactions and really any intimate interactions (that’s a euphemism for sex).

It keeps you safe!

Basically it means finding out a potential partner’s limitations, interests and physical limits and sharing your own.

Negotiations can be in the form of discussion or like in the 50 Shades of Gray, a written questionnaire, often called a contract. 

Join Allena as she shares negotiation types and techniques that will hopefully not only improve your play but also your other intimate interactions.  She’ll also discuss basic scene and sex positive etiquette, to help you navigate parties and events at the Center and elsewhere.
Presenter Allena Gabosch, Executive Director of both the Center For Sex Positive Culture and Foundation for Sex Positive Culture from their creation until retiring January 1, 2015, has been active in the sex positive movement practically from its inception; producing educational and social events for the sex-positive community since 1990.  She is currently the Development Director for the Center and on the Foundation board, as she can’t quite let herself leave either organization. She is a frequent speaker on many sexuality related subjects at colleges and conferences around the US and Canada, with an emphasis on Sexuality, Relationships,  BDSM and Polyamory.  She is a frequent guest on local and national radio and television as an expert on sexuality and has been in numerous documentaries. She has been quoted in many articles on-line and even once in People Magazine, thanks to the popularity of the 50 Shades of Grey.

She was a former Producer of the Seattle Erotic Art Festival. She is a past board member of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom and a former commissioner with the Seattle Commission for Sexual Minorities. She is currently working on several books, including one for parents on raising children without sexual shame.   She also coaches in various areas of relationships, focusing primarily on polyamory.

She is a kinky sapiosexual, polyamorous switch and considers herself extremely blessed as she has a rich and full poly life, with many amazing and loving people in her “polycule”.

Her Sex Positive Blog is

Her coaching website is:

Follow her on Twitter @Ladysun333

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