Natalie Dae
Golden Flogger Award nominee
shares why she writes about BDSM and more…

 

Why did you begin writing BDSM novels?
I’d read a few books and liked the caring aspect, where the Dom has the sub’s interests at heart at all times. It struck me as lovely so I decided to write my own. Trust is a big thing for me too, so being able to write about that is a bonus.

Do you participate in D/s activities or merely write about them?
I just write about them.

Where did you get your information on this lifestyle?
I read a man’s real-life blog. He’s a sub and he explained why he’s in the lifestyle and what his wife’s role is. It was fascinating.

What does being nominated for the Golden Flogger Award mean to you?
To put it mildly, I was shocked. This kind of thing doesn’t happen to someone like me. It always happens to someone else. I’ve cheered so hard for people in the past, and now it’s my turn I feel sort of disconnected, as though it isn’t happening. Surreal.

Do you conduct any advocacy work in this lifestyle or is it strictly fiction base for you? If so, what?
Strictly fiction based.

Where would you like to see the BDSM genre head? How will it get there?
I would love people to have more understanding. There are so many misconceptions flying around out there, that the lifestyle is just abuse prettified with a bow. It isn’t. If people took the time to understand it, they’d see it’s quite beautiful. The trust, the level of care, the respect.

What is the hardest part of writing your novel?
The emotional side. It took a lot out of me.

Tell us a little about yourself and your writing works.
I tend to write BDSM as Natalie Dae. After reading that man’s blog I wanted to explore the dynamics a lot more, show the world in my own way that BDSM isn’t ‘bad’. Educate people, if you like. I write gay fiction as Sarah Masters, which is usually angst-ridden and deals with people being chastised for their lifestyle choice. I’m passionate about living life your way, not society’s way, so again, I try to educate people as to what others go through so that they may understand someone else’s struggles a little better.

Will you be attending BDSM Writers Con or other events we can meet you at?
Unfortunately, no. I live in the UK and there’s no chance of me making it to America anytime soon! I can wish, though, right?

A little about the author:
Natalie Dae is a multi-published author in three pen names writing in several genres. Natalie writes mainly BDSM erotica. She loves a Dom/sub relationship and is fascinated by how it all works. The trust issue is the best thing about it for her, so creating characters who have to adopt trust is one of her priorities. “Watching my characters bloom under tuition is such a treat,” she says. “I find it such a privilege to be able to write about something that makes me learn something new with every book.”

She lives with her husband and youngest daughter in England and spends her spare time reading—always reading!—and her phone, complete with Kindle app, is never far away. “I can’t imagine not reading or writing,” she says. “It’s a part of who I am. Without it I’d be more than a bit lost.”

Natalie has many more BDSM tales swimming around in her head, so her workload for the future is very full. “What better way to spend a weekend than writing?” she says. “Saturdays are my main writing days, so I get up, open up a work in progress and rarely leave the desk. Unless I really have to!”

She writes at weekends and is a cover artist/head of art in her day job. In another life she was an editor. Her other pen names are Geraldine O’Hara and Sarah Masters. Natalie also co-authors as Sarah Masters with Jaime Samms, and she co-authors with Lily Harlem under the name Harlem Dae.