Meet our Everett 2017
We had a few questions for her and she had a few comments for us. Check it out.
It’s truly an honor to have been presented: THE GOLDEN FLOGGER AWARD for Best BDSM Ménage at the 2016 BDSM Writers Con held in New York. I was absolutely speechless when I found out – and for me, because I rarely shut up, that was HUGE!
I’m super excited and thrilled, not only to be invited, but also asked to be the Keynote Speaker at the BDSM Writers Con, March 23- 26, 2017 in Everett, Washington.
For those of you who don’t know much about me, my Husband/Master, Sean and I have been actively involved in the lifestyle for over twenty years. I am a mouthy wench, and the poor man has to keep me under a pretty firm hand. I love it, but when I get too far out of line it only takes “THE LOOK” and I can bite my tongue in seconds flat. Yes, he knows how to control me. Thank god! Over the years, I’ve been asked a lot of questions about the lifestyle. Here are a few of the more regular questions that come my way.
When did you realize you were a submissive?
I think I knew I was wired differently from my friends at a very early age. When I was very young, my neighborhood girlfriends and I played “Pony”. We would run and prance around, and the first one caught was tied to a huge weeping willow tree. I was always the first one to get caught. Though I didn’t know why – I enjoyed being bound. Then in the mid-eighties, I saw the movie “9 ½ Weeks.” It blew my mind to see my secret fantasies played out on the big screen. (Or at least a variation of them.) It was comforting to know I wasn’t the only kinky woman in the world.
How long have you been writing BDSM?
I published my first book: “Embracing My Submission – The Doms of Genesis” in October of 2012. “One Dom To Love – The Doms of Her Life” co-written with the amazing Shayla Black and Isabella LaPearl was released, December 6th that same year. I also am dipping my toes into Contemporary Romance with “Sky of Dreams – Passionate Hearts”.
What is the most important aspect of BDSM for you?
Safety. This lifestyle can be a dangerous place. Predators can hide in plain sight. I’ve given lectures on safety to several lifestyle groups. It’s imperative that every individual be responsible for behaving in Safe, Sane and Consensual – or – Risk Aware Consensual Kink behavior. Your life depends on it.
What’s your favorite “toy”?
The single tail whip. A practiced Dom can elicit any implement in the lifestyle to kiss, burn, or bite. I enjoy things that bite. Though it wasn’t always that way. I’ve had years to grow in this amazing lifestyle. My Master is amazing and has stretched my limits – and then some. In the beginning, the whip both frightened and intrigued me.
What does subspace feel like, and when do you know you’ve reached it?
That’s like trying to describe air. For me, it’s a gradual progression, starting even before we begin to play. My Master instructs me to kneel on the floor and clear my head while he prepares for the session. It’s sometimes difficult, because my body is humming with anticipation of what he plans to do to me. But the minute I feel the cuffs on my wrists, or my body coming in contract with the dungeon equipment, I begin to relax. He helps me further by skimming his hands over my shoulders, back, and legs. The minute he stops, I’m pretty much a marshmallow, but then the smack of his hand, paddle, or flogger brings me back to attention. I begin to float beneath the tempo he establishes. Like a waltz, he lulls me into a calming peaceful place, then yanks me back out with pain. This is how he warms me up. When he brings out the whip, that’s when I sail away into a deep, deep subspace. Every ounce of pent up chaos, stress, and worries evaporate and in my minds eye all I can see is a tiny pinpoint of light. Everything else is gray and nonexistent. It’s the most intoxicating and addicting vacation in the world.
If you have more questions, or are curious about aspects of the lifestyle, please feel free to hit me up in Everett next year. I can’t wait to meet you all!
A little more about Jenna:
Bestselling author Jenna Jacob paints a canvas of passion, romance, and humor as her Alpha men and the feisty women who love them unravel their souls, heal their scars, and find a happy-ever-after kind of love. Heart-tugging, captivating, and steamy, Jenna’s books will surely leave you breathless and craving more.
A mom of four grown children, Jenna and her Alpha-hunk husband live in Kansas. She loves books, Harleys, music, and camping. Her zany sense of humor and lack of filter exemplify her motto: Live. Laugh. Love.
Meet her wild and wicked family in her sultry series: The Doms of Genesis. Or become spellbound by the searing love connection between Raine, Hammer, and Liam in her continuing saga: The Doms of Her Life (co-written with the amazing Shayla Black and Isabella La Pearl). Journey with couples struggling to resolve their pasts and heal their scars to discover unbridled love and devotion in Jenna’s contemporary series: Passionate Hearts.