Golden Flogger Award Nominee, Lainey Reese speaks out about writing BDSM
Why did you begin writing BDSM novels?
I tried initially to write a romance without any sex scenes at all. I found it impossible to establish the intimacy between my characters; I kept running into that closed bedroom door. It was my mother who encouraged me to write out my fantasies. Boy was she surprised!
Do you participate in D/s activities or merely write about them?
Not at first. For years I always thought it was just a wish. Like when I was little and wished I was a princess or a movie star; as I grew up and my fantasies became more and more detailed I always assumed they were just that: fantasy. I thought ‘wouldn’t it be great if I was a submissive for real?’ It wasn’t until I interviewed an expierenced Dom for Embracing the Fall that he showed me that it was not just a fantasy. It was my reality and all I need to do is have the courage to embrace it.
Where did you get your information on this lifestyle?
I read a lot of BDSM romance (Cherise Sinclaire and Joey W Hill are my favorites) and I have Sir for deeper insights.
What does being nominated for the Golden Flogger Award mean to you?
More than I can say. I write because I can’t imagine life without the outlet of writing…but to have my work be recognized takes it to a completely different mind blowing level. I’m humbled and awed by this.
Where would you like to see the BDSM genre head? How will it get there?
A lot of people give 50 Shades a bad rep, but I love what it’s done for our genre. I want to see more of our books made into movies and hitting the best seller lists. I think the only way for it to get there is for more and more exposure to the general public. It’s time for America to stop being such prudes and learn to embrace sexuality.
What is the hardest part of writing your novel?
I want my work to be original and interesting and still HOT. I have stories that I want to tell that have intrigue and suspense and drama-but for so many-because they have BDSM in them they are scoffed at as porn…my harderst hurtle is getting past that pre-set disdain.
Lainey is the youngest of five. She grew up mostly in Nevada and California but calls Washington state her home these days. She is the mother to one amazing daughter and as an animal lover her home is never without a fur baby or two as well. Aside from her animals, Lainey loves being outdoors. Camping, nature hikes and days at the beach exploring tide pools are some of her favorite past times. Movies are another obsession of hers and Lainey holds the Seen It record…undefeated in her household (if you are feeling lucky she welcomes all challengers to her throne.)